This is the reason why you can’t find a girlfriend:
Many boys can’t find a girlfriend because they think they are not good enough. In fact, the reason why many single boys can’t find a girlfriend is because they can’t find a girlfriend. It’s not that the conditions are not up to standard, it’s that there’s something wrong with the way you think about love. The editor below will help these boys correct these mistakes:
1. Only give blindly
When many boys are chasing girls, they habitually focus all their attention on the other person, blindly giving without expecting anything in return, hoping to win the other person's favor by giving flowers, gifts, and being nice to the girl. .
But to be honest, if you want to win a woman's heart, it is not just enough to be nice to her, you also need to be attractive yourself. The money you spend on sending flowers and gifts is not as good as spending In yourself, increase your attractiveness.
When you have a certain degree of attraction, the girls around you will take the initiative to pursue you. Attraction is an instinct, not a choice. Your good-guy behavior cannot make her have feelings for you. In the end, you can only get a good-guy card. You are charming and attractive. You don’t have to please her, and she will like you.
2. Unrequited love for a flower
Unrequited love for a flower, be the girl you can choose by your side When it is very limited, you will fall into a scarcity mentality, which will make you put all your energy on this flower. It will make you over-interpret the girl's behavior and worry about gains and losses, which will seriously affect your attractiveness. So in the process of pursuit, I tried to please too much.
Such behavior is unattractive in the eyes of the other party. Because the other person will think in the opposite direction, you are good to me just to get me, you are good to me because you are not popular with girls.
The most direct way to solve the scarcity mentality is to open up your social circle and get to know enough girls. With enough samples, you can try and make mistakes to find the girls who are most interested in you, and pass out the girls who are not interested in you.
3. Not knowing how to upgrade the relationship
Any relationship will have a relationship stage, and so will a love relationship. In this way, they gradually become boyfriend and girlfriend from strangers at the beginning. There is a misunderstanding here. Many people think that they should be friends with girls first, and then find ways to be boyfriend and girlfriend with girls. This is a very wrong approach. Instead, the framework of men versus women is established from the beginning. If they get along as friends, most of them will enter the friendship zone and be unable to extricate themselves.
The basic rule of relationship upgrade is "go on green light, stop on red light". When a girl is in a good mood and reacts well, upgrade the relationship. Don't upgrade the relationship when the girl reacts poorly. To upgrade the relationship is to doBehavior that is beyond the current stage of your relationship, such as chatting. If you are still a stranger, you can talk about topics that are discussed among acquaintances when the green light is given.
