The beginning of online dating is very simple, but for online dating to become a reality or to maintain a long-term online dating relationship, it is easy to "run out of topics"! You may be very interested in each other at the beginning, but as time goes by, there may be less topics. Let’s chat. In order to solve this problem, here are some tips for online dating chat, which can effectively avoid “no topic” from three angles!
1. Diminishing Margin
People’s lives are in a relatively closed comfort zone. You cannot change your lifestyle every day. Your knowledge is only limited to a certain range. If you talk about the same topic too much, the pleasure it brings to [you and your online dating partner] will be reduced.
When your online dating partner first meets you, he will be full of curiosity about you, learn about your advantages, and feel full of attraction. Over time, this feeling will decrease; in addition, she may also meet new boys, and the online dating partner's attention will be taken away.
To avoid the "no topic" caused by the diminishing marginal effect, we must enrich our own connotation and make ourselves full of heritage.
Why do many girls like the second generation of rich people? Because the love experience brought by the second generation of rich people is very colorful. Experiences that they have never had before, this rich sense of freshness, is the source of the topic of online dating. .
This is not about becoming a rich second generation or pretending to be a rich second generation, but about having a wealth of ideas, knowledge, experiences, etc.
2. Window time
When girls are single, they will leave a period of time for the opposite sex [window time] ], which means that girls (online dating partners) are willing to give you time to express themselves, pay attention to you, and become interested in you.
But this window time will not last forever! Everything has an end, and a girl’s window time for you also has a “deadline”.
If you cannot successfully attract girls (online dating partners) during the window time, or advance your relationship with girls, then alienation will follow.
Online chatting is not just about chatting, but about deepening the distance between you and your online dating partner during chatting, such as going on a date and spending a pleasant day (+ night?), thereby extending the girl’s window time. , or break out of this restriction and establish a relationship with your online dating partner.
3. Relationship Index
Yale University social psychologist Robert J. Sternberg’s Triangular theory of love
love) believes: love = intimacy + passion + commitment.
The degree of intimacy between you and the girl you are dating online will also affect your words.Number of questions. As the relationship deepens, the topics you have with your online dating partner will begin to become very broad!
The chat topics serve the purpose of chatting, and the purpose of chatting is to enhance the relationship with the girl, so your chat topics will be to serve this purpose.
There are only so many topics to talk about. Once you finish talking about the topics, if you and the girl are just strangers, there will be no topics to talk about.
In a limited time, improving the relationship index between you and your online dating partner is the correct online dating technique.